By Alisha Salunkhe
Isolation compelled me to dig deep into parts of myself and ponder over many thoughts and feelings. One of the most constant thoughts I've ruminated over is of stories.
Stories that we tell ourselves. Stories that have invariably become a part of our identity. "I am a certain way because this happened to me ...." , “ Had things played out a different way, this is how my life would be” …
Stories that probably limit us and which stop us from opening up to opportunities, experiences and people in life, who might just turn our life around!
Stories that stem from incidents and experiences, restricting us to certain behavioural traits we now possess, thus restricting us from trying out new things or moving forward or letting go, or they just have us being stagnant & simply stuck in the same place. These are most likely by now, your core beliefs.
It's not easy to let go and strip yourself off of these beliefs and to stop identifying with them. But they're so deeply embedded in our minds that we refuse to accept the possibility that they might not even be true at all. It would be ignorant of us as a society to dismiss that it could also just be a matter of perspective. But then again, how human of us to have our egos protect us and to think that what we feel is how it is.
How can we ever discern if things are the way we perceive them to be, or if it’s just our reality playing out, just like it would for all the billion people out there! Does it then take away from individualistic experiences, traumas, identities? Or do your experiences that count as true only limited to your reality?
Is it really just all a question of reality versus perspective ?
I think, we at least have to try. We have to try be more open, to not let these stories define us and stop us from doing something or being someone we want to be.
What I'm saying isn't profound or new. Nor is it supposed to be life changing. But I'm sure anyone reading this has figured out or remembered at least one of these stories that they’ve been living by & telling themselves and others.
So if this reminds you or pushes you to just realise and become aware, let alone even doing something about it, I think it's worth it.
It could be a bit of a struggle to try & do this. But I guess being aware of it and accepting it brings us one step closer. Hope you guys find it in yourselves to do the same
By Alisha Salunkhe
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