By Mohamed Sathik S
When we think about our past events, we may have some questions in our minds. What has happened to us? What was
the purpose of this happening? What are the benefits we get from these things happening? Does God make any sense by
doing this? Will these happen again or will this be the first and last? Some more generous bizarre questions are likely to
vary from person to person depending on their perspective of what happened.
It may be that the purpose of the Lord performing this is for us to think about it and learn from it. Some events will dissolve instantly without even
thinking about a pill second. While some events
will be felt in the mind like a nail hitting tree, and
even if the nail slips away from the tree, that impact
will last for a lifetime.
Sometimes the best experiences in our lives are
etched in our minds as unforgettable events and they
always sow some kind of deep thought. These
incidents continue to immerse us in our thoughts and
give us some sort of curiosity.
Many people come and go like a peal of thunder in
my life. The moments they had come, and the traces
they left were unnoticed. But a few people would go
to the bound of my life that will remain in my mind as
the most memorable human beings.
So the one I met recently has come and went in just a
few days and had done deep domination and a very
deep impact on my belief is that I couldn't even
imagine.
Although that person is a girl who is more
knowledgeable, older, more experienced, and
naughtier than me. We may think that the person
could be predicted by her appearances and actions. It
is wrong to think so, but when we see a person, a
kind of mindset of" "she is ____; "and" she will be like
this" will automatically arise in our minds. I had the
same mindset about this person, but what she did
was she changed my mind and completely shattered
the perceptions I had of people like her.
Yes, she is a modern woman. The reflection of
Western culture can be easily seen by anyone in her
appearance and is her ability to speak and interact
easily with everyone, regardless of gender. If she
moves from one place to another the attention of
every people's eyes will be on her. Because of these,
I've had very little value about her. But I still wonder
about her upcoming actions that have changed my
mind.
The one who made me wonder if a 'Modern' woman
could be so knowledgeable and experienced.
In just three incidents I can define her.
One day she and I went to the hotel to dine. Although
it looks like a hotel for the rich, I do not think it's a
high-class hotel, but it's a little too big. Hunger was
for both of us since it was lunchtime. I had never
been to a hotel like that before, so I gave her the
menu card. She ordered food along with me. We were
talking at that particular time which might be until
the food arrived. Then a little closer to the two of us,
three other men were sitting and eating. Then one of
those three men looked at this girl for a long time. My
friend, the girl noticed it and asked, "Why are you
staring at me like this?” Conflict erupted on both
sides of us to re-question that with little knowledge.
Although I could not control my anger, those people
were engaging in satire. He and I were still fighting
while the woman was embarrassed by them. But at
the same time, she had talked to me very calmly
though we were engaged in sarcasm so many times
before our food arrived. Because their rhetoric was in
a very crude way. They had finished eating by the
time the plate came to our table. As they were
leaving, only one person who had been arguing with
me came up towards us and said, "The man who was
staring at you had told us earlier that you were really
like his cousin. That's why he stared at you'". The girl,
who should be angrier than me, took the chicken
from our table and showed it to the person, and said
"Have a bite, brother!” That person replied, "No
problem dear, you eat". After that, the three of them
further said that they not only treated us well but
also paid for the food we ate. I was amazed to see that
she was so cool and had fun talking to them and
making a friendship and they were performing to the
point of apologizing to us. I wonder if those three
men who argued with me praised the woman, saying,
A "woman should not be afraid to ask such a bold and
courageous question. "Initially, the conflict that came
up when we were sitting and talking finally became
friendly after they ate and we left with the joy of
having a new experience too. The important thing
which has surprised me is that the woman who was
talking to me very calmly and funnily whiles those
men and I were fighting and engaging in arguing.
After we both left the hotel, I asked the girl, "How did
you talk so cool and funny while we fought with that
man? At the same time, when the person came back
and gave his statement, you spoke with him very
patiently and naughtily and developed a friendship
with them. How did you finally make it possible for
them to apologize?" I asked.
She said, "This is the first time you've had this
happen with me. But I'm had a lot of events like this.
Now we have eaten, right? Out of this incident were
in many of the events I encountered even I struggled
to eat, you know? What do you think is the reason for
this fight even now? That's the style of dress I'm
wearing."
Although she said this matter casually and with a
smile on her face, the moment I heard it, I understood
the pain and what the suffering she was going
through. The girl's western culture dressing sense
could be an arguable matter even though when she
and I walk or when we go out, everyone's eyes would
be on the woman, why? Is it because she has dressed
so modern? Or do they judge by their eyes that those
who dress like this are the wrong people?
But, even in this emotional event, the woman's ability
to face the situation without any anxiety or fear is
truly astonishing.
In the second event, she and I went to the cafeteria in
our company for tea. The price of tea is only Rs. 10.
The tea came as soon as we ordered it and I didn't
like it as much. What can we do? I tried to drink 10
rupees as I thought it could be tea. The girl had just
drunk the tea, and when she drank it she also hasn't
seemed to like it either. She said to the person who
brought the tea, "You put the milk in an oven and
heated it so the milk doesn't boil and that is why the
tea's taste is like a dumb, you can taste it too. We will
give you some more money if you want. Do the milk
boiled and get some a nice cup of tea." The person
took the cups of tea which we already drank.
I said, "Why did you say like that? He felt ashamed
himself, and this is 10 rupees tea only right?"
She said, "You look so sinful to him. For these 10
rupees, we work from morning till night, scolding our
seniors, carrying the workload on our backs, and
working overtime. You can think, this is what their
job is also. We did not like tea, so we told him to
drink too, and we were willing to pay more, we did
not order him anything, we just kindly asked, and he
was ready to fulfill our request." The tea came just as
we were talking, we drank the tea, and it tasted a
little bit better than the previous one, she continued,
"We got this flavored tea just because we heard it". I
stared at her in amazement. You might think that she
did the right thing, as many women do. No, the
reason I am so stunned is that she is not a woman
who can be in a difficult situation like me, she is a
modern woman. Also, she was a comfort woman, too.
Her salary is 6 times higher than mine.
I never dreamed that such an event would take place
in this place and that such a response would come
from her following it.
The ingenuity of the woman who knew that no
matter where the mistake was, no matter how small
it was. The ability to tap into it, to tell the wrongdoer
their mistake without regretting it, and to instantly
illustrate to me by instance an event that could not be
realized no matter how many books we read. What
am I saying?
In the third case, the woman and I were sitting side
by side because we were working in the same
company. Whenever our seniors or officers tease us, I
and other new hires like me will go into a state of
panic. But this girl used to deal with these kinds of
situations very calmly and patiently, no matter how
many times they scolded, yelled, or cornered her.
This thing came as a surprise to many of my
colleagues like me. I can't tolerate my enthusiasm.
Finally, I asked her" How do you handle the situation
so patiently?” She said, "We all do the same job. There
are loads of seniors and officers around us, right?
They are also workers of this company, also can work
like us. The only difference between them and us is
experience. They have more grades and salaries than
us because they have more experience than us.
We must obey what they tell us to do, but we don't
need to obey what they want us to do beyond our
work. All of us who can work here are equal,
regardless of grade, experience, and salary. “She said.
The inevitable things which are suddenly come to my
mind at the mere hearing of this were that, "we are
all people and that some of our chosen ones are our
rulers. We must follow the plans of what they will say
and do. But we have no need or compulsion to be
bound by the decisions they make using their
positions to their advantage and the detriment of the
people. Putting aside the rule, power, position, and
caste, we are all one people". The conception and
clarity of the woman who made me realize such a
huge political issue through an event in corporate life
is commendable.
God will teach us in many ways, many new
experiences from things and from people we did not
expect at all. For example, if the path is two, which
paths do we choose as the right one? God will guide
us even with thorns if we think. Do you ask me how?
If there are a lot of thorns in one particular path then
that path itself is the wrong path. Similarly, we
should try to feel such memorable events into
experiences and learn lessons from them. I traveled
with her for only three days, though those three days
became the most memorable days of my life. Through
the journey with that woman, I can still recount many
experiences through some events. Her every action
continued to make me aware of my presence, self-
esteem, and state of faith.
I do not know if I will ever see that girl again. But
those three days are unlikely to come again even if
we meet again. Those were the most memorable days
of my life.
“There are some who bring a light so great to the
world that even after they have gone the light
remains” - Habeeb Rahman
I am pretty sure, she is one of them and Yeah! She
was my best Bosom Buddy.
By Mohamed Sathik S
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